Education
Champions Are Of Good Cheer
The great ones carefully create world-class results by consciously constructing every thought with a sunny disposition from within. The world class is of good cheer by conscious choice. They are aware that their thoughts are the creators of their circumstances. Amateurs, on the other hand, create mediocre circumstances inadvertently by the thoughts they in particular entertain which includes longing and lack.
Understanding that their inner world creates and determines their outer world and champions embrace the role of the successful, fulfilled and happy human being until the part becomes them. In order to attract extraordinary success, fulfillment and happiness they must first become these exact things. Like attracts like, success breeds success, happiness manifests happiness. We don’t attract what we desire…we attract what we are. This statement alone is why the world class consciously chooses to be of good cheer.*
*177 Mental Toughness Secrets of the World Class referenced
Mindy Mar D.C.
San Diego Center for Health
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“The Doctor of the future will give no medicine, but will educate his patients in the care of the human frame, in diet, and in the cause and prevention of disease”
Thomas A. Edison
Understanding Men – Part 11 – Understanding what it means to be bored
Sometimes, we don’t quite understand what it means to a man to be bored. As women, we are naturally equipped with that diffuse awareness that keeps us going, and keeps our minds occupied. Men tend to commit themselves to a single thing, with focus, and if they don’t find something worthy of thinking about or doing, they’ll focus quite literally on nothing. They’re quite a bit more picky about what they’ll choose to pay attention to. When a man says that he is bored, he is telling you that he hasn’t found anything worth paying attention to. Since he’s only going to focus on one thing, he wants to make sure that what he chooses is worthy of his life, and that it is important to him.
If you can, find something for him to do, something worthy of his attention. Do not to think about things for him to do or think about what would benefit you, but rather try to help him find something that is worthy of him. He is someone important in your life, and your spending time with him means you admire and care for him. Help him to find something that you know is worthy of him. Give him an opportunity to be your hero and be proud of himself, too.
What The Heck’s A Vision Board—and How Can It Change Your Life?
I speak at Universities once in a while, to business students, about a business formula that I’ve put together. From my experience with Quizno’s, I understand the big picture of how to make any business successful no matter what the product or service is. I’ve discovered that in order to be successful every business needs to apply the exact same aspects. I stress that before starting any business, that it’s important to envision what the purpose of the business is, what it looks like and what outcome you ultimately would like. The clearer the vision, the more likely it is to appear that way, and the more likely things will show up that support your vision. Like magic!
My goal is to teach you how to use one aspect of that magic, something indubitably cheesy but surprisingly effective. I’m talking about a vision board.
All the Pretty Pictures
I have a photo box containing many images I’ve torn from magazines. I plan to glue them all to one large piece of butcher paper. The resulting collage will be a vision board; its purpose, to depict (and lead me to) my desired future. This whole process makes me roll my eyes—as I was trained to do over the course of my very rationalist education—but damn if it doesn’t work.
Sometimes.
I’ve made several vision boards that bombed out, and some that were so successful that the hairs on the nape of my neck prickled for months. Years ago I glued up a headline that said MAKING AFRICA WELL. I thought it was a joke—oh, sure, like I could do that—never expecting that a few years later I’d be invited to a wedding in South Africa and while there went to an orphanage in a township. Suddenly, I found myself raising and donating money for them.
I’ve discovered there’s a trick to making a vision board that brings forth such improbable coincidences. It starts with avoiding common pitfalls that result in faulty, inoperative models. Many people hear the basic instructions—”Find pictures of things you want in your life and stick ‘em where you can see ‘em”—and create virtually identical collages: a wad of cash, a handsome husband, a gorgeous body, a luxury car, a tropical beach.
Snore. These images constitute our culture’s idea of the good life. Even a rich, happily married beauty queen with a Porsche in the driveway and a house on the ocean will crank out this same damn vision board. This has no juice at all. To really work, a vision board has to come not from your culture but from your primordial, nonsocial self—the genetically unique animal/angel that contains your innate preferences.
When you start assembling pictures that appeal to this deep self, you unleash one of the most powerful forces on our planet: human imagination. Virtually everything humans use, do, or make exists because someone thought it up. Sparking your incredibly powerful creative faculty is the reason you make a vision board. The board itself doesn’t impact reality; what changes your life is the process of creating the images—combinations of objects and events that will stick in your subconscious mind and steer your choices toward making the vision real.
Step 1: Please Your Animal.
There are two basic procedures involved in creating an effective vision board. First, instead of cogitating about familiar images, scout for the unfamiliar. Your mind can’t do this. Your animal/angel self can. Just page through a magazine (and walk through the world) noticing things that trigger physical reactions: a heart thump, a double take, a gasp.
The only responses involved should resemble these:
“Ooooh!”
“Aaaahhhhh.”
“Whoa!”
“!!!!”
“????”
These “thoughts” register in your stomach, your heart, your lungs—anywhere but your head. You can’t produce them in response to cultural clichés or abstract ideas. Nor can you always know why your body reacts to an image. Wondering, then finding out, is one of the most delicious things about assembling a vision board.
For example, as I rummage through my current collection of images, my body is utterly unmoved by photos of mansions or designer clothing. What interests it are pictures of an abstract sculpture, a dried leaf, and (overwhelmingly) a map on which the migratory route of the springbok antelope is shown in red. !!!! Go figure.
Though it makes no logical sense, I know from experience that gluing these pictures on one big page will begin catalyzing something beyond my mind’s capacity to calculate or conceptualize. If you’re not already accumulating images that rock your socks, stay alert. Whenever you find them, filch them.
Step 2: Let Go Mentally and Emotionally.
Most folks master Step 1 easily, gathering new and interesting images by the bushel. Step 2 of making a vision board requires something trickier: not thinking. To do it you must relax completely and let your mind go blank. You don’t concentrate on the result you want.
This is exactly what you should do once you’ve created a vision board. Stop thinking about it. Lose it. Recycle it. The biggest mistake aspiring reality creators make (aside from that predictable cash/tropical island collage) is continuing to push something they’ve already set in motion. You’ve felt the repellent energy of salespeople desperate to hook you—it makes you sprint away so fast, you cause sonic booms. Don’t use that results-oriented energy.
Step 3: Be Still and Still Moving.
Making a vision board is not a substitute for elbow grease. Magical cocreator or not, you still have to do stuff. For example, I want to be better at speaking french. So I put a headline on my vision board: I am fluent in French. I watched movies with subtitles, listened to french music, and made a little progress. I made arrangements to live in Paris for 2 months, and take french language classes 3 times per week. After one month my French was flowing and could have conversations. By the time I left, after being emerged in the culture, I was fluent.
This is the zone of reality creation: regularly picturing delights that don’t yet exist, emotionally detaching from them, and jumping into action when it’s time to help the miracles occur. I’m barely learning this, to be (in T.S. Eliot’s words) “still and still moving.” But in the moments I get it right, every step I take seems to be matched by a universal mystery, which obligingly, incredibly, creates what I can’t.
So that’s my 411 on vision boards, but please, don’t believe me. Try it yourself. Do it as a lark, a hobby, a physics experiment (though calling it that may cause Werner Heisenberg to spin in his grave like an Olympic ice dancer). While you’re oohing and aahing, cutting and gluing, I’ll be doing the same.
Understanding Men Part 10 Facts vs. Feelings
One of the things we discovered years ago is that the Masculine measures reality by trusted FACTS while the Feminine reality is created by her FEELINGS. Both of these are completely valid ways of seeing the world.
An interesting and hazardous side effect, however, is when you put these two realities in an automobile together. Let’s call the Masculine a “Man,” although this is not always true, and the Feminine a “Woman,” also not always true ~ but easier to repeat over and over again. He’s going to pay attention to being Factually safe, while she can’t help but notice if she Feels safe.
Add to this the difference in eyesight for men and women: He can track moving objects way better than she can; she has a peripheral vision that’s more sensitive and prey-like than predator ~ meaning she sees more threats.
This is how you have a woman full of tension and potentially freaking out because he keeps changing lanes. Every time he moves the car to a lane on her side, it will look to her like cars on her side might hit her. So she doesn’t feel safe. He may know factually that he hasn’t had an accident in decades, that the car over on the other side wasn’t going to move, that the speed with which he slipped in that spot missed the other car by a mile… and so on.
Unfortunately, the fact of her being safe will not make her feel safe. And a man’s greatest challenge with women is making them FEEL SAFE. Because everything good from a woman begins with her feeling safe ~ and everything nasty begins with her feeling unsafe.
I would love your comments and questions related to this topic. It’s worth exploring!
Blessings,
Heather
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Here’s to your health!
There’s nothing as delicious as a home-cooked meal shared by the whole family. Cooking together won’t only bring your family together—it can also drastically improve your family’s health. Keep these 62 ingredients stocked in your pantry and you’ll be able to whip up a family meal in a snap!
Whole grain mustard
Extra-virgin olive oil
Sesame oil
White wine vinegar
Bread flour
Whole wheat flour
Baking powder
Dried yeast
Superfine sugar
Brown sugar
Confectioner’s sugar
Unsweetened cocoa powder
Chow mein noodles
Canned cannellini beans
Canned kidney beans
Canned tuna
Canned coconut milk
Anchovies
Quick-cook couscous
Basmati rice
Brown rice
Oatmeal
Honey
Maple syrup
Almonds/hazelnuts or mixed nuts
Mixed seeds
Chicken, vegetable and beef broth stock cubes
Jarred pesto
Ketchup
Tabasco sauce
Mayonnaise
Dijon mustard
English mustard
Olive oil
Canola oil
Red wine vinegar
Balsamic vinegar
All-purpose flour
Cornstarch
Dried pasta
Canned garbanzo beans
Canned tomatoes
Baking powder
Soy sauce
Worcestershire sauce
Plain crackers—unsalted saltines
SPICES
Ground cinnamon
Chile powder
Dried oregano
Ground cumin
Ground coriander
Curry powder
Smoked paprika
Five-spice powder
Sea salt
Black peppercorns
FROZEN STUFF
Peas
Sugar snap peas
Green beans
Sweet corn (Non-GMO)
Fruits
Raw shrimp
* Use organic if possible.