Pleasure
Take pleasure in others’ happiness, as it will augment your own.
If we are jealous or envious of our friends’ happiness, it could only affect us in a negative way. If we are truly, deeply happy for our friends and others who surround us, it will radiate out from us authentically, and we can’t help but feel happy ourselves. Taking pleasure in the small moments in our days, and appreciating the moments of the journey, will surely translate.
Joy
Misery may be contagious — but so is joy. How we will decide to see and respond to everything happening to us and around us is controllable. For example someone could say, “I have to go to school, it’s so boring.” Or “I’m going to school yes, but I am investing in myself and my knowledge. I’m learning and gaining knowledge that my be useful one day for me.” There are always 2 or more ways to look at things. Nothing is good or bad or wrong or right; it’s just what is,
and we can choose to make it mean whatever we make it mean; joyful or miserable moments. It’s we who decide what it appears to be. So we perceive and label things as being pleasant or unpleasant fun or boring according to our attitude and how we respond to what’s happening to us in the moment or what it looked like in the past. What will you choose?
Method
Treat happiness as a method, not an end in itself. The meaning of method is, Orderliness of thought or behavior; systematic planning or action: “combination of knowledge and method”. Instead of just taking it for granted or thinking happiness is an automatic feeling that just pops up out of nowhere, although this is true and does happen we can also, systematically create happiness in each choice in every moment. You can choose to be happy. Just like seeing the glass half empty or half full, either is a choice. We have the ability to create our happiness. I remember years ago a friend of mine asked me how come I’m always so happy. She said that’s all she wanted was just to be happy. I told her “So, BE happy.” She said it wasn’t that easy. But really it is just that. It’s a choice; a state of being; a decision to in that moment, and in every moment to be grateful for everything surrounding us. It is virtually impossible to be grateful for everything and at the exact same time be unhappy. The beauty of it is that it’s not something that works following a certain structure, it’s purely subjective. The experience of it, how we will feel and express it, and the degree you express it, is influenced by how much we teach ourselves to feel it, to express it and encounter it within ourselves. It’s how much we decide to respond in a positive manner to what happens our in lives.
Mistakes
Let yourself make small mistakes.
Happiness is not found in perfection. We sometimes won’t take a risk because the unknown is so scary. Having courage to go through the fear and make the mistake may end up being the most rewarding. Even if we fail, we will gain the knowledge from the experience, which can never be taken away. Even if it was a mistake, we will know what not to do next time. Whatever happens; happens. Just be in the moment, enjoy the journey.
Happiness
Happiness doesn’t just happen; it emerges. Goldie Hawn studies happiness and how to be happy. I’ve taken many courses and read many books on the subject as well. I’ve learned over the years that we can shift our mood through different techniques. We can make choices that will give us the consequences that we want which will lead to happiness in the long run. Meditating and being connected with spirit, being in the moment, in the present and being grateful in that moment brings instant happiness. Choosing to BE happy is the key.
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